On Being Negative About Being Positive

On Being Negative About Being Positive

Instagram envy had led to a belief that anyone who only shares the positive online is somehow being dishonest and deceitful. They are curating a "perfect life" with a highlight reel of all the best bits while editing out the bad. These curated lives are "never as good as they look" and if it's too pristine and wonderfully pretty, then it's probably a lie - a "fake lifestyle that we all are guilty of putting out on the Internet."

We need to stop being negative about being positive.

Some people have nice lives with beautiful surroundings and good jobs, happy relationships and exciting lives. If you compare your life to theirs, if you make the presumption that their life is effortless and you feel negative about your own because of it, look away. Comparison never helped anyone. Social media has provided us with new ways of sharing content almost instantly with friends, family, and even strangers. It's given us multiple ways of connecting, supporting and appreciating each other and the experiences we share. We should be happy and excited not jealous and spiteful when we get to see a glimpse into other people's lives, countries, and cultures. We shouldn't be wishing to see something bad happen just to prove their life isn't as perfect as we've convinced ourselves it is.

"If you're jealous of your friend's life as it looks on Instagram or Facebook, the problem is not social media - it's you..."

Not only is it boring and unnecessary to share bad moods, petty arguments, and fleeting moments of "misery", it also reeks of first world problems. When I read blogs or look at Instagram, I don't want to see negativity and sadness, I want to find and appreciate the beauty in every day life - and that's OK. Everyone knows life has its ups and downs; we all get our own share of sadness alongside our happiness. Just because we decide to edit the bad moments out doesn't mean we're saying "these things never happen to us." We're asking you to assume we have bad days too but we don't want to talk about it.

I appreciate my life enough to know I've got it pretty good, "the bad" isn't all that bad and certainly isn't worth moaning about online. I make the conscious decision to only share positive content and beautiful things; I do not want to dwell on the bad or include the boring parts because they're boring and there (mostly and thankfully) aren't any really bad parts.

Wanting to only share the fun, the wonderful, and the beautiful moments isn't being dishonest or deceitful; it isn't lying to create a perfect distortion of the truth. It's saying, "hey, life is good and we only get one chance - let's celebrate it."

Relevant Reading:
| Stop Instagramming Your Perfect Life
| Please Continue Instagramming Your Amazing Life
| Why Not Admit We Didn't Wake Up Like This
| I Woke Up Like This
| The Comparison Trap: Your Life isn't a Highlight Reel
| The Myth of the Effortless Life
| On The Matter of "Curating," the Snob Effect, and Jumping on the Bandwagon
| Candid Thoughts on Bloggers' "Perfect" Lives
| Let's All Admit We Have Sh*t Days