I don't believe in luck
It just doesn't exist; "you make your own luck" is one of those clichés I totally buy into. If you are not willing to put yourself out there, try your hardest, push yourself, then you won't achieve the things you wish you could. Nobody gets handed everything to them, nobody ever became successful because of "luck." If you think "luck" will simply hand you a perfect job, happy marriage, and successful career, you've got a cold hard smack in the face coming when it comes to getting where you want to in life.
I don't believe life is (un)fair
We shouldn't expect good things to happen to us just because we work really hard and try to be a nice person, just like we shouldn't expect "bad people" to have bad things happen to them just because we dislike them. That isn't the way the world works. "The problem isn't that life is unfair; it's your broken idea of fairness." I do, however, believe that if we do good things, the universe will take care of us in some way or another. But that's a story for another time.
I don't expect (or want) everyone to like me
If some people dislike you, that's a sign you're doing something right; if everyone dislikes you, that's a different matter. Look, we're all different, we won't always agree on everything, we can't all be best friends. I'm OK with that. I'm OK with people not liking me, my opinions, or the way I choose to do things but so long as we're civil to each other it's all cool~
I don't believe in waiting for the perfect moment
Sometimes you've just got to do that thing that you want to do, whether it's quit your job, move house, have children, write a book, start a business, go back to school - whatever it is, go and do it. Stop waiting for the perfect moment because it doesn't exist. Sometimes there are happy coincidences that make your decision easier and I'm definitely not suggesting you do anything stupid, like giving absolutely zero thought to what your next step is. But waiting around for the planets to align and that golden moment to present itself just isn't going to happen. No time will ever feel like the right time if you're waiting for it to be perfect, I promise you.
I don't believe I would be happier IF...
I owned my own house; I had a nice car; my business was bigger; I was more intelligent; I had more money. If you don't learn to love yourself exactly the way you are, flaws and all, then you will never be happy, no matter what. There will always be things you wished you could change but those should be bad habits or traits, never your appearance or a lack of something someone else has got. Learn to love yourself, learn from your mistakes, improve your skills, and by all means, correct your bad habits, but never trick yourself into thinking life would be better if...
I used to believe in luck and the 'perfect moment' and my life seemed to depend on it, but now I've realised that you've got to put the work in yourself as you said, things don't just happen out of nowhere!
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"Look, we're all different, we won't always agree on everything, we can't
ReplyDeleteall be best friends. I'm OK with that. I'm OK with people not liking
me, my opinions, or the way I choose to do things but so long as we're
civil to each other it's all cool" - the world would be such a better place if people would just realize this and be at least civil to one another. You may not like the other person but at least be polite, it's not faking.
great post xx
I don't believe there is a perfect moment to do something, I think people only tell themselves that to hold off working on their dreams.
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You know I am Muslim and we also do not believe in these things as well, but we do believe in evil eye. Have you heard of it?
ReplyDeleteVers inspiring post and I agree with everything you said!
ReplyDeleteCompletely agree with all of these! There are people I know who seem to be waiting on 'luck' to deliver everything for them and it stresses me out a bit, because I want life to work out for them, but they have little concept of actually MAKING life work out. Whereas I have no concept of being passive or sitting idly by! However the last point of the 'happiness trap' was really hard for me to get out of the habit of! Especially when I was a teenager, I was such an extreme romanticist and escapist back then because high school had me feeling so trapped and unhappy, I really had to start forcing myself to take off those rose-tinted glasses.
ReplyDeletePreach girl! So inspiring! I also don't believe we could be happier if we had more material things, obviously when it's about health well that's another topic, but the less you have the less attached you are and the freer you can become.
ReplyDeleteWow most of these hit home with me especially the first two.
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I agree with all of these. I hate when people blame things they can change on the universe in an attempt to shift the blame.
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I really love this post and totally agree with all of them, especially about making your own luck in life! It frustrates me greatly when I see people moaning about their lives but then do nothing to change it?! Great post. xx
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I really agree with the first one! I definitely do not believe in luck, though I may say "good luck" to a person who has a test or something coming up, but that's just habit. I really believe that we need to take control and make our own "luck" because not everything will handed to us. I know for a fact I would not have my job and internship if it wasn't for me making connections with my professors and classmates at school.
ReplyDeleteI definitely agree with the first one, but I also definitely do believe life is unfair. Not in the sense that I feel hard done by if I try really hard at something and it comes to nothing, but in the sense that I think there are some people who are so disadvantaged it's almost impossible for them to make an impact on their life trajectory no matter how hard they try, and then some who are so privileged they are pretty much guaranteed success no matter how little effort they put in. I think it's actually getting worse not better too. Really great idea for a post x
ReplyDeleteThese are all great things to keep in mind!
ReplyDeleteThe last one really resonated with me. I have trouble being happy in the here and now sometimes. I think I need this or that to truly feel happy when in reality I have more than I could ever need in my life.
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These are all so true. Great post! I used to want to be liked by everyone, but I've since realised that not only is it impossible, it'd also mean that I wouldn't be myself.
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I am so glad I found your blog a few weeks ago ! I always can perfectly relate with all your posts (that's why I'm commenting so much aha)
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I love this post and I agree so much! I'm thinking of all these aspects too and this is how I know I grow and mature day after day... The world doesn't change much, we are the ones who change and see things differently as a result...
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Love #3!
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ReplyDeleteI don't like the if mentality... Though sometimes in probably guilty of all the above thinking, but I do truly try to live by the theory that I own my own outcome... And my actions are my responsibilities!
ReplyDeleteI couldn't agree with you more. This is so inspiring, it means that if you want something badly enough, go out there and grab it!
ReplyDeleteLove this post! Real thinker. I'm gonna have a brainstorm about the things I don't believe in, I think it would be good for me. I think the last one is something we all need to wake up and realise, the grass really is always greener and it happens all to often that I finally get something or achieve something I've wanted and thought would make life better and it was a massive anticlimax. It's so important to focus on the now, enjoying it and relishing it and appreciating it. x
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I couldn't agree with you more. This post is so spot on! And you are just so real. Thank you for always bringing inspirations through every single post you wrote.
ReplyDeleteThese are all so true. It's hard to breakaway from these ideas because it seems like they're instilled in us from youth, but you can't use that excuse forever! Change is up to oneself. I especially appreciate your last point, one I struggle with all the time. But it's so true! Great post, as always <3
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I think people fling around the words "lucky" and "life is so unfair" too many times that now they are more like sayings, people don't really feel their weight anymore. We all need a reminder sometimes that luck doesn't exist and life is neither fair nor unfair.
ReplyDeleteThank you so much for reading :))
ReplyDeleteI definitely think it's a good idea to think about what we don't believe in and remind ourselves why. Thank you for reading, Rachel.
ReplyDeleteAbsolutely. People often put things down to "luck" or life being "fair/unfair." It's simply not true; we have to make our own luck and get over the idea that life is neither fair not unfair, it just IS.
ReplyDeleteI definitely think we're all guilty of it from time to time! The grass always seems a little greener on the other side, right? We need to remind ourselves things are not always as they seem.
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ReplyDeleteAWESOME :))
ReplyDeleteIt's so true :))
ReplyDeleteYou put this quite perfectly - things definitely change as we go through life and we learn as we live.
ReplyDeleteThank you :))
ReplyDeleteAwesome - thank you so much for reading and commenting :))
ReplyDeleteIf we expect everyone to like us or try to make them, we lose a part of ourselves.
ReplyDeleteIt's OK to aspire for things.. but it's not OK to do nothing to move ourselves towards achieving our goals. It's important to think, "right, I want this, so how am I going to get it?"
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ReplyDeleteThere are certainly privileged and unprivileged people in the world.. but I still don't think that is LIFE being unfair, life is just life. It's neutral. It's the "luck of the draw" in a sense; when you are born, you're born into a life not of your choosing.. your circumstances are due to people who dictate how you life through economics and politics. I still stand by the idea that life itself is neither fair nor unfair. Although I certainly agree that there are people who do not get even the slightest chance to succeed and I believe this unbalance needs to be addressed.
ReplyDeleteI make a conscious decision not to say "good luck" because I don't believe in it BUT it's tough! It's so ingrained within us to say it to people; I find myself with the words on the tip of my tongue before I have to correct myself.
ReplyDeleteThe words "you're so lucky" really grate against me.
It is, in a way, rather rude when someone says "you're so lucky" to someone. It implies whatever it is that is happening (a new job, a holiday, a successful business) is happening because of chance, not through their own skills and hard work.
Since I started seeing things that way, I realised I don't want to say that to people :))
Totally! I am 100% with you on this. We make our own luck; if we want to complain about something then we need to be prepared to do something about it. People don't just handed things to them, they work hard for whatever it is they want.
ReplyDeleteI definitely agree that it is an excuse, and a very common one!
ReplyDeleteAbsolutely :))
ReplyDeleteThank you for reading :))
ReplyDeleteI definitely agree, the less attached you feel the freer you become. Material things can make us feel good.. but I think we're happier without worrying about money and possessions so much. Life is about experience.
ReplyDeleteI think people use it as an excuse not to do anything.
ReplyDeleteI love your term "the happiness trap." I think we've all been there and experienced that at some time or another!
Thank you :))
ReplyDeleteI absolutely have and I love the symbolic meaning behind the evil eye.. although I don't believe in it myself (because I don't believe in good or evil) I am very passionate about symbols in culture and folklore. Eyes are of huge importance to me (which sounds a bit weird) :))
ReplyDeleteAbsolutely; waiting for "the perfect moment" is essentially just being fearful of doing the work
ReplyDeleteI have regularly remind myself that it's OK not to get on with everyone; some people just aren't very nice and it would be toxic to be friends with them. I have learned that lesson but it's still hard when "friends" turn out not to be quite as supportive as you thought they were. I can be civil with these people but it's OK not to be friends with them.
ReplyDeleteYou've just got to get stuck in and get started, that's my opinion. Nothing happens unless we are prepared to do the hard work; we wont progress until we put the effort in :))
ReplyDeleteI needed to read something like that so much right now you have no idea!!
ReplyDeleteI don't believe in luck either. Although, I do believe that the energy we put out into the world is the energy that returns to us. Skeptical me tried it for a year by putting out positive energy into my dealing with people. Being friendly, smiling, and just being kind. It works! For real!! :)
ReplyDeleteYeah that's a good way of looking at it I guess. I think this was a really great idea for a post. Really made me think x
ReplyDeleteIt's true, I agree. It's especially serious in our society, where we live in privilege compared to a huge amount of people. Life is really about what you make it. We can all suffer from unfortunate events, but you can't use that as an excuse forever.
ReplyDeleteLove this! The main one I agree with is that life isn't (un)fair (of course, I've never been stricken with illness or losing someone very close too soon, but those are different matters). I do, however, believe that attitude makes all the difference!
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